Real over Reel - Ep. 1

Balancing Faith and Therapy: A Deep Dive into Integrated Counseling

In this thought-provoking episode of the Real Over Reel podcast, I had the privilege of speaking with Todd, a pastor, consultant, and family man, about the complexities of integrating faith into counseling. As someone who has wrestled with the intersection of spiritual beliefs and mental health practices, this conversation touched on deeply personal, professional, and societal topics that are sure to resonate with listeners navigating their own paths.

From Faith to Therapy: My Journey

I shared my journey of transitioning from a music career to dog training and eventually to becoming a marriage and family therapist. Along the way, I grappled with whether to focus on faith-integrated or secular counseling. Coming from a European background, where religion often takes a backseat in daily life, I wanted to explore how spirituality fits into therapeutic practices in the U.S.

Todd, who has spent decades pastoring and working in ministry, brought a unique perspective. His life experiences—from growing up in the Catholic Church in Indiana to running an after-school program in one of the most violent neighborhoods in Florida—shaped his views on faith, family, and mental health.

The Case for Faith in Counseling

We explored compelling data supporting the integration of faith into therapy. For instance, studies from the Pew Research Center highlight the increasing number of Americans seeking spiritual guidance as a way to combat depression and anxiety. Todd emphasized that faith, when applied thoughtfully, can provide hope, structure, and a sense of purpose—elements crucial to mental health.

However, we also tackled the challenges. Religious trauma syndrome, which occurs when faith-based environments cause harm, is a real concern. Todd and I discussed the delicate balance of acknowledging these realities while still encouraging spiritual growth.

Addressing Challenges in Faith Communities

One of the most impactful parts of our conversation revolved around how pastors, like Todd, navigate the gray area of counseling without formal psychological training. Todd candidly admitted to wrestling with the limitations of pastoral counseling and the need for partnerships with trained therapists.

He shared examples of churches successfully collaborating with mental health professionals to ensure congregants receive both spiritual and psychological care. This partnership highlights the growing trend of churches normalizing discussions around therapy and emotional health—an encouraging step toward reducing the stigma around seeking help.

Parenting, Emotional Intelligence, and Sabbath Practices

A particularly inspiring segment of the podcast focused on Todd’s approach to raising emotionally intelligent children while maintaining a faith-centered home. He shared practical strategies, such as fostering open conversations about feelings and conflict resolution, teaching his kids the importance of service, and prioritizing family time through Sabbath practices.

The Sabbath, Todd explained, is not just a time of rest but a transformative family ritual that fosters joy, connection, and gratitude. He also introduced journaling as a powerful tool for reflection, whether rooted in faith or simply used as a way to process emotions and reduce stress.

Bridging Faith and Secular Counseling

As a therapist, I often find myself torn between the data-driven nature of secular counseling and the spiritual depth offered by faith-integrated approaches. Todd’s insights affirmed that this doesn’t have to be an either-or decision. Instead, the key lies in meeting clients where they are, respecting their beliefs, and using whatever tools—faith-based or secular—help them heal and grow.

Final Thoughts

This conversation reaffirmed the importance of keeping an open mind and heart when it comes to counseling, faith, and personal growth. Whether you’re a person of faith, a therapist, or simply someone navigating the complexities of life, Todd’s reflections on emotional health, family, and spirituality offer valuable takeaways.

If you haven’t listened yet, tune in to this episode of Real Over Reel for an enlightening and honest discussion about the intersection of faith and mental health.

What are your thoughts on faith-integrated counseling? Share your experiences and insights in the comments below!